Powerful Are Our Words And Thoughts

They’re just words, right? What power could they possibly hold over you? And our own inner dialogue – quickly said or thought – what does that matter, anyway?

Well, as it turns out, those words spoken to you as a child become ingrained in you. It doesn’t matter if they were always loving words, or harsh and negative ones. A child who is raised hearing that they are troublemakers, are stupid, will never amount to anything, or are ugly, will continue to hear those words in their head as adults. How will those words affect their pursuit of a career or a relationship?

And what about the words never spoken, yet because of the actions of a parent, still scream loud in your head? What is being “said” by an absent parent to their child? That they’re not worthy of your time and of your love?

If you grew up hearing negative words, and they are still affecting you in your life today, it is time to confront them. There are many different ways to do this, and you will need to choose the method(s) that will ring true to you. Here are some of my ideas:

  • Traditional Counseling
  • Tapping – also known as EFT for Emotional Freedom Technique
  • Forgiveness. Often, your parents were only doing what they knew; it was how they were raised.
  • Positive Affirmations
  • Quantum Biofeedback

If possible, you can also have a discussion with your parents about how their words have affected you as a child and as an adult. If they open up during this talk, it can be an incredible healing experience for both them and you.

Now, to take this further; as an adult, what if you are, or were, in a relationship with someone who belittles you? Over time you may begin to believe what you’re being told. You’ll feel heavy, dragged down, like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Please don’t fall into that trap. Know that you are even greater that you believe, and stronger than you feel. Make the changes that you need to live the life you so rightly deserve.

2014 is your year. It’s time. Make the changes you need, both physically and emotionally. Ask for, and graciously accept, help for your new journey. This is your time to turn on your soul light. Make this your year to let your light shine bright. And let it be a beacon!

 

Tips For Parents of Spiritually-Gifted Children

I thought I would share with you the tips I have learned from my own experience of growing up with this gift, of being a parent of a gifted child, from talking with others about their own experiences as a child, and from talking with children who have come to me for guidance.

This is what I call my ‘BLAAS’ method of communicating with children:

Believe.

Please, please, do not accuse them of lying, having an overactive imagination, or making up  stories.

Listen.

Without interrupting. And hopefully without a shocked expression on your face!

Answer.

Answer their questions about what they’re experiencing the best way you know how. Be honest if you do not know the answers, and let them know you’ll work with them to find the answers. You can do research online, ask a friend or family member who is gifted, or even ask me.

Ask.

 Ask your child questions about what they’ve shared with you. In my previous post I shared some questions to ask, such as: Did (or does) it scare you? What did you say to him/her? And how do you feel about it?

There are many other questions you may ask, depending on how much your child has told you about their experience. Here are some more to help you out:

Was the spirit someone you know (such as a departed family member)? Did they say anything to you? Did you talk with them? Could you see the spirit clearly, or was it more of a shadow or outline of a person? Is there a message they want you to give to someone, or were they just here visiting?

Share.

If you, yourself, are able to see spirit, please let your child know that. It will become a special bond between the two of you, and deepen your parent/child connection.

I hope my guide has been able to help you. Please let me know if you have any questions.

An Invisable Friend?

Does your child have a friend you cannot see? Talking about seeing a beloved family member who has died? Ah! You are so blessed! You have a child who has “the gift”!

The young are seeing, hearing, sensing with untainted eyes and a mind that has yet to be biased through age and what their family members and peers say and think. You were chosen to be their parent for a reason: to help guide them with this amazing ability they have. If you, yourself, have this ability – wonderful! If you do not; well, this is a learning experience for you.

Please do not ever tell your child that what they see/hear/sense/smell is not real. The main thing to do is LISTEN to them. Listen when they tell you their experience. Ask questions, such as “Did it scare you?”, “What did you say to her/him?”, and “How do you feel about it?” These are all important. It validates for them that you believe in them. Sit with your child as they share their experience with you. Look into their eyes. No matter how uncomfortable you are with this, you need to do it.

Your children need to know that you believe in them, they aren’t crazy, and that you’ll do whatever you can to help them. If you yourself do not have this gift, or do not have the answers for them, please do what you can to find someone who does. Ask them to talk with your child. There is so much peace brought with knowing that you are not alone in seeing spirit. And having someone who can help to guide our young? Priceless.

I was raised with a “matter-of-fact” mother. She was to the point and direct. It was rare to get a story behind a fact. When I was very young and asked who was walking around every night and coming in to see my brother and I, she said it was my grandfather. I asked why, and she said he died shortly before I was born, and always talked about how he couldn’t wait to see his granddaughter. Oh, okay. A few years later my great uncle passed away, and when I told my mom that he was in my room the night before, she just said, “yes, he’s here visiting.” It was just a few days later when a friend was over, and she smelled something when we entered the living room and asked what it was. I told her it was my uncle’s pipe. “Is your uncle here?”, she asked. I said he’s right there in the chair. After a back and forth conversation, I realized she really couldn’t see him. Hmmm…very strange. After she left, I told my mom about what happened. She told me that this wasn’t something we talked about outside the family.

It was then that I knew I was different. It was then I began my silence about it. I was six years old. Oh, there were a few close friends as I grew up and in junior high and high school that I felt I could hint about my gift or even outright tell. I always let my intuition guide me on that.

Looking back, I am glad that my mother at least acknowledged what was going on, and that I knew she also could see spirit. However, I do wish she spoke more about it, and guided me more. I do know now, as an adult, she was only doing what she learned from her mom. As I learned that this was something passed on through the women of the generations, I vowed that I would be different when I had children. I had to do more, say more, teach more. And learn more myself.