I thought I would share with you the tips I have learned from my own experience of growing up with this gift, of being a parent of a gifted child, from talking with others about their own experiences as a child, and from talking with children who have come to me for guidance.
This is what I call my ‘BLAAS’ method of communicating with children:
Believe.
Please, please, do not accuse them of lying, having an overactive imagination, or making up stories.
Listen.
Without interrupting. And hopefully without a shocked expression on your face!
Answer.
Answer their questions about what they’re experiencing the best way you know how. Be honest if you do not know the answers, and let them know you’ll work with them to find the answers. You can do research online, ask a friend or family member who is gifted, or even ask me.
Ask.
Ask your child questions about what they’ve shared with you. In my previous post I shared some questions to ask, such as: Did (or does) it scare you? What did you say to him/her? And how do you feel about it?
There are many other questions you may ask, depending on how much your child has told you about their experience. Here are some more to help you out:
Was the spirit someone you know (such as a departed family member)? Did they say anything to you? Did you talk with them? Could you see the spirit clearly, or was it more of a shadow or outline of a person? Is there a message they want you to give to someone, or were they just here visiting?
Share.
If you, yourself, are able to see spirit, please let your child know that. It will become a special bond between the two of you, and deepen your parent/child connection.
I hope my guide has been able to help you. Please let me know if you have any questions.